Demi Lovato interview hits home

Every now and then I read interviews by celebrities that actually pull at some serious heartstrings inside me. In this case it was the unexpected short interview I saw on Yahoo news by teen celeb Demi Lovato.

The interview's title was focused on how the young celeb shut down her haters at one of her concerts. But the part of the interview that was more interesting to me was the fact that she subconsciously and on purpose keeps friends at bay.

Lovato admits that she sometimes unintentionally distances herself from her friends and its up to those around her like boyfriend Wilmer Valderrama to call her out on her own shenanigans.

“Wilmer is that person,” she says, adding that her BFF Marissa is another pal she can rely on.

“Sometimes I’ll isolate a little bit. I won’t reply to people’s text messages, or I’ll just distance myself from everyone unintentionally, and she’s the first one to call me out on it,” Lovato says. “It’s because I’m going through something. I’m stressed or depressed.”


I tend to do the same thing many times. I think I always feel like to a certain degree I always have to act when I'm around other people. Even people I've known some people for awhile, I still feel like I have to portray some sort of character.

I've always been a loner, so it is no surprise that I have this pressure to act more excited, or happier than how I would naturally act if I was alone. Not to say I'm fake, I just have to make myself have a little nicer, or cooler than what I actually am (haha I'm cool but not that cool it's what I mean ;])

Because of this, many times, I cancel on plans with friends at the last minute, I don't reply right away in fear I'll get coaxed into going out. Sometimes other people cancel on me, and I think 90% of the time, I've had a rush of excitement come into me. I think the only times I have actually felt annoyed/negatively affected by it, is when I was already dressed up and was actually looking forward to going out. If that's not the case, then I'm like, oh yeah a whole day of not getting out of my PJs day is here.

Even when I'm shopping, I would rather do it alone. I like watching movies or shows by myself as well.and doing random video browsing (If I feel like drawing a picture of my dog on Paint, damn it I wanna do it alone).

Of course, after a while of being by myself, it does feel nice to meet with friends and have good conversations as a group. Currently I have a boyfriend of 3 years, and he is one of the only people I can be with even when I don't wanna hang out with anyone else. And he constantly wants me around, so we spend a lot of time together; but even with him I get overwhelmed and need times when I have to be alone - to recharge myself.

I guess everyone is different, and at times I guess I wish I could just be a little more outgoing and perky by nature. But I'm not, and I can't keep on wishing to change what I can't. My suggestion to anyone having the same issue would be to just try to accept who you are. Sounds like the most cliche advise I know, but it is the only thing that will truly make you happy. It's is more important to make yourself happy after all.

So if you don't like going out as often as your friends, then just decline when you don't feel like going out, and hang out with them when you do. If they are your friends they should get it. Explain to them, that you need to have your alone moments because of the nature of your personality.

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KoreaBoos. Korea’s lovers. Wannabe Koreans.

There are many names one can give to this phenomenon. 
koreaboos, korealovers, oppa gangman style, nerds, koreancrazed, other weeaboo. 

But  "A rose by any other name would smell as sweet" and whatever you want to call it, one thing is for sure Koreaboos are on the rise.

If you’ve been following the Korean entertainment industry, it’s 99% likely you’ve come across some of these specimens. So...

What is a Koreaboo and what's wrong with being one?

Koreaboo – Someone with usually very high and delusional images/perceptions of Korea. They tend to

  

• Be really involved in K-Pop, K-dramas, K-Varieties, pretty much K-everything!!

• Have very little social interactions in the real world. No friends that they can actually high five :/

• Idolize Korea and anything to do with it (ohhh Koreans don’t poop, they release rose petals when they go to the toilet)

• Be very immature and usually in their teen years (Not always, but in most cases)

• Deny they are Korea’s boos (Me? No, I’m not Koreaboo oppa-ya)

• Say in more than one instance they wish they were Korean (Why can’t I be in Korean and stalk oppa in peace?)

• Always make excuses to argue that Korea and Koreans are better than other countries/places  J (Even their own! This is what makes them more detestable to me -_- have some love for your country you little shits)

• Want to move to Korea and marry oppa/unnie/ ANY Korean!! (Ohh my dream is to be in Korea, marry a Korean, and have Korean babies, and of course go to the toilet and release rose petals as a true Korean would) ;)

• Hate on their own countries/people because compared to Korea, they are total low-class and not cute at all compared to all the Koreans who happen to be perfect.

So now that you’ve been able to identify a Koreaboo let’s go into the next question

What leads to someone to become a Koreaboo?

•  First of all there can be many and unique reasons for this to happen. Many have to do with the fact that many of koreaboos are still kids (<18). So it should come as no surprise that they are easily impressed, and can over-generalize any new trend they discover on the Internet. Age definitely plays a factor on becoming a Koreaboo from what I’ve seen before. After all, tween and teen year are a very susceptible and impressible age to be in.I’m pretty sure there are adults in the Koreaboos bandwagon (If you are one, what are you doing with your life?!), but most of them are just immature kids who still need to grow up and get out a little more.

• Second, a lot of these kids are socially lacking meaning that they might be more of the introvert/nerdy/lonely type. That is why when they find a new sub-culture, they become so attached to it. This can be seen with many other subcultures such anime lovers, star-wars nerds, etc. I find it that a lot of these people burying their entire lives into a fandom are people with very few/zero real-life friends that can take them out of their trance. This is why when they find a ‘new world’ online, they completely immerse in it.

• Third, they have had a hard time immersing in the society that they are in. Even if they have friends, they feel like they don’t fit in, or feel a constant uncomfortable feeling inside regarding their social skills. Most Koreaboos have no life outside the internet and live very secluded lives. Perhaps they go to school, and say hi to some people, but most of their free time is spent in their room alone with their computers as their only friend. Koreaboos tend to spend all their weekends in their rooms watching Korean dramas, variety, MV’s etc. Dreaming away to the day they are finally found by their fav K-Pop star

Again, factors vary person to person, but after days of research and years of reading koreaboos testimonials and of course my own brief experience as a koreaboo I can tell you that most of these are at least partially correct.

So are you a koreaboo? If you are, what are the reasons that made you one? Let’s gather some data here for future generations ;)